AM I THE ONLY ONE

Friends, With the recent and untimely death of Nipsey Hussle, I think that it's only right that we talk about mourning. Let me just say that I wasn't a huge fan like my fiance, but I was very familiar with Nipsey Hussle and his contributions to the community and music industry. His recent homegoing only made me think about how we handle death. Fortunately, I've only had to deal with one close family member passing that still makes me sad to this day. "But, as we get older dea

Friends, Don't feel bad if you don't like to eat green things or hit the gym a few days a week - I have to bribe my fiance into eating a salad too. I've always been somewhat of a healthy eater but it wasn't until my overall health took a slight turn post-college during my move to Chicago that I started to change my eating habits. Whether it was the move to a new state that shocked my body or stress overall, I knew that I couldn't continue down the same path. From there, I sta

Am I The Only One who wants to be superwomen to everyone? No, I know I'm not. As a women, especially women of color, we constantly find ourselves solving everyone's problems. It's a natural thing to do. If you're anything like me, I'm sure you have a hard time saying "no" as well because you don't want to disappoint anyone. Well, if you're a people pleaser, it turns out that the only person that you end up disappointing is yourself. I have a brutally honest childhood friend a

Hi Friends! I’m back and I’m 26 now, and not so clueless. It’s crazy how much can change in one short year! Y’all my life is completely different, I’ve been diving all into my passion of media and communications. Literally right after I posted 25 and clueless, I started working at my now company (funny right). In addition to that, I’ve gotten the chance to work on a few very cool freelance projects, moved back to the city and finally got my passport (I know I’m late)! But wit

Am I The Only One who always talks about unity but never really acts on it? I'm reading myself this week, friends. I'm one of those people who are in love with the idea of positivity, collaboration and unity - but I never really act on. When it comes to those values, my actions never match up with what I say I'm going to do. Yup, I'm usually talking the talk but not walking the walk. I'm like this when it comes to running my brand and projects - I'm usually never proactive wh

Am I the only one who is tired of being bombarded with "tea", celebrity drama, devastating domestic and international events,this presidential election on top of my OWN life drama. It's really enough to make you go Crazy! So with all this madness going on, here are some tips to help you decompress ... Decide what's really important to you? It's a lot of unfortunate events happening all over the world to be emotional about. Even emotional enough to want to take action, and do

Am I The Only One who thinks that dating in 2017 can be successful? Being someone who is involved in a long-term relationship, I may come off as bias. But I've also learned a valuable lesson from this - never leave your 80 percent for your 20. An old quote but it still rings true. What that means to me is growing together. Lets be honest. We are all flawed and none of us bring 100 percent to the table and neither will our mate. More times than none you'll come across someone

Single, Black Feminist. Ok, so before I go into details about my love life I have to contextualize how I got here. I grew up on the South Side of Chicago, where my mother and father created early feminist fundamentals inside of my little feminist heart. My mother only allowed us to play with Black Barbie dolls. My father was a Black Panther and bought me, my first book illustrating the accomplishments of Black women. My father even showed us how to change a tire. We were unco

Am I The Only One who won’t even move down the street if we no talking about marriage? Don’t get me wrong, I love LOVE as much as the next person. But, there has to be some type of boundaries. Too often, we’re quick to give a relationship (and I use that term loosely) everything we got. With no commitment, and no solid direction of where the union is going. Moving to another city/state is huge, especially if you have no family or friends there. Your only connection is your bo

Am I The Only One that gets excited about the Founders Day Frenzy? That time in early January where every NPHC organization sits on the edge of their seats ready to rep their organization, throw shade at others or all of the above. No matter what act we choose to partake in, it's around this time that we are all reminded of why we committed to these esteemed brother and sisterhoods. Since my undergraduate years, I've been financially disconnected to my sisterhood, but have re

Am I The Only One who lives by the term "new year, new me"? As corny as the phrase may be, the concept is genius. The new year is a perfect time to reevaluate, set, and put your goals in motion. It's really something in the air around this time of year, that gives me a clear focus on the future and reflection of the year that has passed. Let me share some tips that have helped me materialize my goals in 2016, that I'm taking to 2017 with me. Set Some Goals, what do you want y

Am I The Only One who thinks finding a mentor is awkward? Don't get me wrong, mentorship is valuable in career and personal progression. However, how do you find somebody you admire and basically say "Can you help me get my life together?". That's pretty intense, but I have a couple of tips that might help ease the tension. 1. Do your research! When you've pinpointed your potential mentor, DO YOUR RESEARCH. Make sure you know who they are, and what they have done! You can't a

Am I the Only One who feels like the atmosphere hasn't been right since President Elect Trump won the election? Honestly, my energy has been way off and my mind has been all of over the place. The reality under a Trump administration brings feelings of uncertainty, rage, fear, and just all over heaviness. It's so many layers to this situation, that it's overwhelming for me to think about sometimes. Like the blatant disrespect of so many marginalized groups, celebrities endor

Am I the only one who feels like working a full time job while trying to pursue your interest is absolutely exhausting? I've been told that our generation is the slash generation, meaning that we don't focus on just a 9 to 5 but also our interest and hobbies outside of the workplace. For example, I'm a public relations professional/blogger/business owner. Older generations might not necessarily understand why we pursue so many different avenues and passions, but I think this

Am I the only one who hates breakups? Whether it be family, friends, or boy/girlfriend it's awkward and uncomfortable. But sometimes, we HAVE to do it. So here are some tips that I've used during past break-ups, hopefully they will help you too! Be Honest with yourself, and that person. Be Honest! I know that it's easier to sugar-coat your feelings out of empathy for your relationship. But that doesn't do anyone, any good. Tell them truth, don't deny them of a learning experi

Am I the only one who thinks there are many benefits of living at home with your parents/guardian? But, the need for privacy and freedom sometimes out weigh those benefits. Everyone's home situation is different, but if your parents are anything like mine, then you always came home to a full fridge and food on the table. Who can complain about that? Living with my parents, I also got tons of financial and emotional support if I needed it. Still winning, right? But the transit

Am I the only one who thought I'd have it all together by 25? You couldn't tell me that I wouldn't have my dream job in media, with a bomb condo, engaged to my dream guy, and traveling the world. Welllll, my 25th birthday is days away, and I don't have any of those things I just listed. So when August hit, I started to dread turning the big 2-5. Feeling like a complete failure, and fearing that all these big dreams I have would not come true. Y'all, when I say I was feeling a

Am I the only one that finds it just a little awkward to follow up after an interview, or even after you submit your application/resume? It's like the weird time frame after the first date, when your trying to figure out if you should call first. In this situation I think it's normal to make the first move. But just like you would make that first call, it has to be as smooth as possible. So here are a few tips that might get you a call back. Outside of Thank You letters, rema

Am I The Only One who has been completely drained by the events of this past week? My head space and mood, have been severely affected. I feel drained, stressed, angry, hurt, and tad bit helpless. With these emotions hanging on me heavy, the world is still moving. I still have to work, regardless of the state of the world. So the question now becomes, how do I continue to work while I feel so conflicted about almost everything. The answer to that, is not an easy one. I'm pers

June 1st, the start of a new month and also the day I decided to wear my natural hair to work. (Pause for back story) I had recently began working at a very prominent PR firm in Detroit. I am the youngest person and the only African American in the office; so you can understand why I was a little apprehensive about wearing my hair in its natural form. My boss and coworkers have only seen me with long weave, first twists then a luxurious 24-inch unit. #Bundles My real hair is