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Breaking Up is Hard to Do


Am I the only one who hates breakups? Whether it be family, friends, or boy/girlfriend it's awkward and uncomfortable. But sometimes, we HAVE to do it. So here are some tips that I've used during past break-ups, hopefully they will help you too!


Be Honest with yourself, and that person. 

Be Honest! I know that it's easier to sugar-coat your feelings out of empathy for your relationship. But that doesn't do anyone, any good. Tell them truth, don't deny them of a learning experience that could possibly benefit them in the end. 


Be respectful, and kind in your approach. 

Most breakups are between two people who love each other, so remember that love while the relationship is ending. There is no need to be rude or mean about it, because it will only do more damage. 


Be ready to handle the consequences 

Not all breakups will be easy, or quickly over. So be ready for the possibility of your friend feeling anger, bitterness, sadness towards you. It's a tough spot to see someone you care about feel this way, but remain strong in your decision.


Be ready to be set free 

When the dust settles, you will feel much better. A weight lifted off your shoulders! 

Also remember that it's ok to move on, it's not easy but it's worth it in the long run. Cherish the memories you have, and look forward to new beginnings.

So ,friends how do you deal with breakups? Let us know!


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-Tamika 

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Am I the only one who feels like breakups are one of the hardest things to do? Break ups don't just happen in intimate relationships, but also friendships and even with family. No matter what the relationship is, deciding to go your separate ways is never easy. But this is real life, and sometimes you grow apart from people that have been around you for years. 

It's okay to grow apart from people that you were once close to, it happens. As you grow older your values and interests change and that sometimes has an affect on your relationships especially if your friends and family don't have the same values and interests. Is walking away easy? No, we know this. But here are somethings to think about as your going through this transition. 


Its' okay to be alone or make new friends.

If you're walking away from a relationship, know that it's okay for you to be alone for a moment. You don't have to be in a relationship to be happy, especially if you both aren't on the same page. Compromising your happiness for a relationship is never worth it. 


Don't be so hard on yourself. 

People grow apart for a number of reasons. People move away, go to different schools, end up having different interests, etc. All of those play a factor in people growing apart and that's okay. Don't be hard on yourself because many of these situations happen naturally and are often out of your control. 


Address the elephant in the room. 

It's hard to walk away from relationships that you have invested in for such a long time but its even harder having the conversation with the person you are breaking up with. Still, having that tough conversation can ease the blow rather than just drifting away. It's better for you to have the conversation in person, approach the situation gently and always wish the person well. 

Friends, have you ever walked away from a friendship or relationship? How did you handle the situation. 


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-Iesha 

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