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Dating With A Purpose In 2017


Am I The Only One who thinks that dating in 2017 can be successful? Being someone who is involved in a long-term relationship, I may come off as bias. But I've also learned a valuable lesson from this - never leave your 80 percent for your 20. An old quote but it still rings true. What that means to me is growing together. 

Lets be honest. We are all flawed and none of us bring 100 percent to the table and neither will our mate. More times than none you'll come across someone that will have your 80 percent but they'll still lack your 20.


At this point you'll have to make a decision - are you willing to grow with that person until you both reach 100 or will you keep searching for the other 20?

That doesn't mean settle for something that doesn't meet your standards but you can't expect your love story to roll out like a fairy tale. That's not real. 


Dating and finding love is hard work. It's learning someone, it's working together as a team, it's making sacrifices and more. Some people will find a partner that's closer to their 100 than others and some won't. Your dream guy or gal might not come in wrapping paper with a pretty bow on top. But you might find someone with potential, someone that you can peak with. 

So friends, will you grow with your 80 percent or search for 100?


#AITOO 

-Iesha 


Am I The Only One who is constantly told by your friends “you’re too picky” or “you’re too hard on guys." I literally hear these statements almost every other day, and I don’t see it that way at all. Before I start this, I am not in any way bitter or man bashing but it’s starting to get a little exhausting. To set the scene, let me give you a little glimpse into my life. I am a workaholic because I truly believe that this is my season of sow and harvest, and I need every last seed!


So with that being said, I work a 9-5 (really 9 – whenever they feel like) sometimes weekend job in PR. I also do freelance PR projects, I’m a brand ambassador for Miller Coors, and I’m a blogger. So it’s safe to say I’m always “booked”. So when it comes to dating my tolerance is at an all-time low, I can’t tell you guys how many dates I’ve been on in the last couple of months that were complete waste of my time. I could have been sleeping, you know how precious I count my rest now!

And don’t get me started with the texters, they text all the time and then what? Do you just want to be a pen pal, or trying to ask me out?​


Like I’m confused. I’ve also ran into the seemingly nice guys, until they open their mouths and they start telling you how they think women should behave (super awkward). Especially for a girl like me who blasts Trina, but is also on a fast for church.  It’s like can a normal nice guy ask me on a date, without making it weird.


Don’t get me wrong, eventually I want the husband and kids. But I’m really running out of the patience to try to figure what guys are trying to do or how they feel, the way my schedule is set up I don’t have to time or energy to invest in it. I’m not putting the idea of dating or a relationship on the back burner just yet, I'm still hopeful that there are intentional guys out there. But in the meantime, I’ll continue working on my harvest.


Friends tell me the truth, am I’m being too harsh?

#AITOO

-Tamika

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